How Do You Pivot?

I was thinking about this last night, because I did it for myself.

I’ve been feeling stagnant, stuck, unsure of my next steps on a specific professional front. 

I dug deeper and quickly realized: I know what next steps I could take, have taken in the past, but I was unsure about my connection to them now. 

I kept asking myself: “What is my new thinking here?” and turning up empty. 

And without that clarity, I’ve been hesitant to take any real first step.

When I see clients who are feeling stuck like this, they are doing what I was doing: Arguing with the present. 

We argue with the present when we hope it was the old path, the way it was in an idealized version of the past, or wishing it were some new path in some idealized future that hasn’t happened yet (and may never).

How do you actually pivot? How do you get movement? How do you get unstuck?

One way: Release the wish the things were the way you wanted and be in the present reality and work with what’s there.

**Sounds super simple and it can be but I’ve worked with clients for years to partner with them to get to that point.

There may be some tears for what isn’t, there will be letting go of the wish for what could be, but you will move, in a direction, in the here and now.

The moment I did that for myself, I very quickly realized where I am in the present moment, and what is called for now.

The present, the right now can be painful if it’s not living up to our expectations, hopes, and wishes but only here, in the right now is where movement can happen and where the pivot lives.